Hey everyone it’s Harj. Hope you’re all doing well. We realise HDCandy have not updated the blog recently, but as many of you know we have now started making youtube videos. If you don’t, please do check it out. Our youtube name is HDCandyx. So yea, we have been super busy making videos, editing and uploading (which takes for ever!) But have no fear…HDCandy is now here!!!
As requested by Cheyenne
In the ideal world families are perfect – hence the word ideal. There are no arguments, disputes, tears or hurt feelings. But lets face it guys, that just happens in films. Don’t get me wrong…with commitment, determination and sacrifice, everything can last for ever. But for those circumstances where it doesn’t….this is for you!
I myself happened to have gone through a rough time when it came to family matters. When I was 14, my parents split up due to some heavy domestic violence. I chose to live with my mom and as a result ended up losing contact with my dad. As much as I wanted to maintain my relationship with him, it was his way or no way.
We ended up living in a refuge hostel for 3 months. A small room where the three of us would live (my mom, my brother who was 1 and a half at that time and me). It was tough since my mom couldn’t work due to injuries and because there was no one to look after my brother. Finances were downhill for a while and things were not looking good I must admit.
During that time, there was a lot of stuff that was going through my mind. Why was I going through this? Why did this happen to my family? What’s going to happen now? A lot of unanswered questions drove me crazy. Doubts about whether we would ever smile again haunted me every day. I missed a lot of school due to depression and it was near exam time….timing was awful!!
Nevertheless, support is the key. There were days where my mom would cry into her pillow as she watched us cram up in a little room. I knew I had to be strong ….if not for myself then for my mom. As hard as it is to stay positive in some situations, I thought about the bright side. My mom was alive, even though we were in a hostel, we had a roof over our head and most important of all, we were together. We spent nights just talking and supporting each other. She was my rock and I was hers.
Friends also encouraged me and supported me. I went out with my friends every now and again and this would take my mind off things.
The hostel offered a counselling service which I decided to try out. As silly as it sounds, but sometimes it is so much easier to talk to someone who is not involved in your life. Impartial advice helps a great deal…so if you ever need to talk but feel like you don’t want to talk to a family member or a friend, try a counsellor.
I knew in the back of my mind that I could not let this affect my future. Not only was I going to fulfil my dreams of becoming a doctor for myself, but now I was also doing it for my mom….for a better future for all of us. I got my act together and started going back to school regularly. As hard as it was to revise and study in a small room which was full of stuff, I made do with what I had. Like the saying goes…when life hands you lemons, make lemonade!….
Well that was me back in 2004. Let me update you on where I am now: We now live in a 3 bedroom house…which my mom owns! My mom went back to college and did an interior design/painting and decorating course – she is now a self employed business woman. My dad and I finally got back in touch. Although he has remarried and has another child, our relationship works. Even though it took 5 years for it to happen, I’m glad it did. As far as education is concerned, I passed my GCSE’s with flying colours, moved on to one of the best colleges in the city, did my A levels (which I also passed with flying colours) and moved up in the world! Right now, I am on vacation having completed my first year of Medicine at University.
There is always light at the end of the tunnel you guys…always! As bad as things may seem at the time, never give up and never lose hope. Be there for one another and support each other during these tough times. One day, you will look back and think about how much better your life has become. No matter how long it takes for you to reach your happily ever after…keep your head held high!
Hope this has helped/inspired/encouraged you guys. Or made you think about life in general. No matter what situation you are in, there is always someone who is going to be in a worse situation, so be happy with what you have.
Stay beautiful you guys, love you lots. Take care and be safe
Love, Peace and Awesomeness
HDCandy xXx
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